The 9-Step Guide To Giving Your Man A Crazy-Hot Lap Dance
If you’ve ever fantasized about mesmerizing your man with a slow striptease before sex, rest assured you’re not the alone.
Wanting to tap into your inner diva and mastering the art of seduction is totally natural (not to mention incredibly sexy). Foreplay is not only just a fun part of initiating sex, but it can actually be an incredible time to bond you to your partner — and what better way than by turning your man on with the sexiest movements your hips can offer?
Men enjoy lap dances — but there’s more to it than just watching as you gyrate and dance. It can also be an incredibly freeing moment for you as well, and make you feel sexy and confident before you even touch each other.
But lap dances can also seem a bit intimidating, and that’s okay! Those of us who aren’t skilled in dancing or have never given a lap dance before might not know where to start. But once you’ve got a good place to begin from, you can have an incredible amount of fun learning how to lap dance and showing off your best moves.
If you want to get your man hot and bothered as a special occasion or even as a new form of foreplay before things really take off in the bedroom, then lap dances can be an intimate fun way to initiate sex.
We know a thing or two about how couples can improve their sex lives and become better lovers, and sharing something as passionate as a lap dance can certainly make for an interesting evening together! One of the most common questions you might have before you start is, “How can I give my man the best lap dance of his life without seeming like an amateur?” And if you’d like to know the answer to that, then keep reading!
Here’s how to master the basics of lap dancing for your lover so you can dance all over him like a total pro:
1. Treat it like it’s a (sexy) special occasion.
Lap dancing isn’t an everyday activity, but a seductive gift you can offer your man for special occasions. These days, people automatically assume that erotic dance is only for strip clubs and music videos, but it’s so much more than that.
Imagine your lover being completely spellbound by your every move, quivering with desire, ready to follow your every command. Learn to lap dance, and you’ll gain tremendous erotic power and confidence.
2. Practice your moves.
Long before you give your man a lap dance, start dancing for your own pleasure. Find a few songs that you think are sexy and seductive and then practice dancing to them, enjoying the way the moves feel in your body.
Ditch the mirror and don’t worry about what looks sexy. Focus on what feels sexy to you.
One of our golden rules is “Get Out Of Your Head, Get Into Your Hips!” Women spend too much energy worrying about how they look, what their lover is thinking and if they are performing adequately enough.
Take all of that energy and focus on how you FEEL. Bring the focus of your attention down into your body and notice the sensations of pleasurable movement.
Start with your hips. Place your hands on your hips and sway your hips left and right. Notice how your whole body curves in response. Then thrust your hips forward and notice how your spine arches.
All of these bends and curves are crazy sexy. Have a little extra flesh? Use it to your advantage and accentuate your curves as you bend and sway with the music.
Next, find a song that you love dancing to. You can choose a fast, booty-thumping song that makes you feel feisty and alive. Or you may prefer a sensual dance to a slow love song.
Find the songs that make you feel most alive, most erotically charged and most ready to seduce your lover. Then dance to the song over and over again until you are at ease moving and swaying to the rhythm.
You don’t have to choreograph a whole routine, just find a few good moves that feels sexy to you. The more confident you feel, the more desire you will build in your audience of one!
3. Get your space ready.
When you are ready to give your man a lap dance, take a few moments to prepare the space. Clear the floor around your most comfortable chair. Imagine your man sitting in the chair, beaming at you with love and appreciation. Make sure you can walk all the way around the chair so you can dance in a 360-degree circle of seduction!
Dim the lights if you can or flood the room with candlelight. You may even want to buy colored light bulbs to create a new atmosphere. It doesn’t take much to create the thrill of novelty!
Create an atmosphere that makes you feel sexy, seductive and in the mood to dance. As you prepare the space, start taking long deep breaths and get yourself in the zone.
4. Make sure your body and mind are in the zone.
What you wear for your lap-dancing performance is totally up to you. You can go all out and dress up in your finest dress and high heels, go out on a date and give your lover a lap dance as dessert. Or you can hide gorgeous lingerie under casual clothes and surprise him on Sunday morning.
Make it your own. After all, a lap dance is an authentic expression of your sexuality!
You’ll be getting very close and intimate with your lover, so take the time to take a long shower or
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