Surviving Mother’s Day When You’ve Lost Your Mom
Mother’s Day is a time to honor and cherish mothers. Whether your relationship with yours is nurturing or strained, all mothers have one thing in common: they love their children. But, what if your mom is no longer around? Maybe she has passed on or refuses to talk with you as an adult. Either way, you’re feeling sad and lonely without her. Here are a few ways to help you get through the day.
1. Remember the good times you had with her. Find and remember fond memories of your mother. How did you feel in her presence? Imagine you’re with her now and she is playing with you like in your childhood memory. Allow yourself to feel her presence with you.
2. Go through old photographs and videos. Another way to access your memories is to look at old photographs, videos and other mementos that remind you of your mom. Discover the many ways she uniquely cared for you.
3. Write your mom a letter. After accessing your memories, write to your mom. The point here is to give you the opportunity to say the things that were never said or to ask questions that have been left unanswered for you.
4. Imagine what she would say if she were in the room with you. Use your imagination to pretend your mom is with you today and that she has a message for you. What is that message? What is it that only she can tell you that you most need to hear? This step takes careful listening to imagine your mother’s wisdom to speak to you, but be patient with this process; it can be very rewarding. Keep reading …
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